My Big Gay Wedding March
For several months, I had heard about the National Equality March on Washington DC, whose purpose was bringing attention to Gays and Lesbians right to be married, serve openly in the armed services, and end the Defense of Marriage Act. Of course I thought many reasons not to participate: large crowds, who would watch our dog, possible gig that weekend, what to wear? And the best reason of all, just not feeling it.
As the day grew closer, I found myself unsure about going, but tried to stay open to the idea.
Then I read an interview with Cleve Jones, the organizer of the march, stressing the importance of every able bodied person, especially NY'ers, to get out and march! That was all I needed to hear. Convinced, I set out to exercise my right as a citizen to march on the nations capital. It's what democracy is all about. "If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything" Mr. and Mr. Smith go to Washington.
I am in a happy, healthy relationship with someone I love so much. Our families know and love each other but being referred to as John's friend at family parties has gotten real old. Having the right to be married is less about the ceremony or having a wedding, but acknowledgement. And every law available to hetero couples.
It was a day to be remembered. It was breathtaking to behold the sheer number of people from all walks of life gathered. There were college kids, gay and straight alike, who were jazzed up, vocal, loud and unapologetic. It reminded of me of some of the early ACT UP demonstrations in the 80's.
Just when I thought that activism was dead.
The great lawn was where it all went down. Young activist spoke eloquently, and with passion. Seasoned performers moved the crowd.
This was not just a gay march, like the civil rights movement was not just a black thing. But we all share a connectedness. Our humanity and concern for each other is what matters most. If there is any one thing I take away from the day is Love is worthy of protection. Love is worth fighting for.
And just days later the world looked on in horror as a young racial mixed couple were denied the right to marry in Louisiana by a justice of the peace, simply because he didn’t believe in it.
Here, for all to see, love being denied, challenged, misunderstood.
I returned home energized, and full of hope. Lady Gaga, who lit up the crowd, said it best.
"Bless God and Bless the Gays"